What is the definition of naughty kids?
I feel compelled to write about that word once more. That is a bad word. The most logical response is that there are no naughty kids. What exactly does the term imply? It usually means that the youngster behaves in a way that discourages, upsets, confuses, annoys, or even irritates adults.
Feeling themselves powerful to control the naughty kids
Adults frequently believe they must be more powerful than children. Therefore we do it by speaking in a language that no one understands, including ourselves. We can perplex a youngster by using the word naughty and leaving them wondering what they did to cause us to behave in such a violent, cruel, or frightening manner.
Some adults express their disapproval by acting angrier and more childish than the child they are supposed to discipline. A sentence like "You make me very upset when you're misbehaving" might send shivers down a small child's spine. What kind of information have they received? How can they improve their skills? They've only known that the adult is now enraged, unsure what will happen next.
Abusers always use comments like this for decades to convince their victims that anything unpleasant that happens to them is their fault. They may refuse to speak to the youngster or confine them to the naughty chair or another location where they may "think things over." What exactly are they? What hopes for an innocent, albeit annoying, youngster if an inanimate object can turn naughty? This behavior only reminds the child that whatever they did was unappealing to the adult. What does that educate the youngster about appropriate behavior?
Everyone, whether a youngster or an adult, craves attention at times. Adults who accuse youngsters of attention-seeking behavior should pause and consider their actions. If we say something exciting or new, we want someone to listen. if we do something successfully, we want someone to notice and praise us.; if we can't get attention any other way, we'll misbehave, knowing that, at the very least, a reprimand or punishment will acknowledge our existence.
Way of teaching to stop doing wrong
A child requires consistent and age-appropriate boundaries and discipline. If a child's behavior is unwelcome, they must inform naughty kids in a way that allows them to grasp what makes their activities unsafe or anti-social.
"You steal your sister's toy." "She is in tears." "She is upset because you snatched the toy away from her." These words will significantly influence the youngster or the naughty kids than the adult removing the child or snatching the item and returning it to the helpless sister.
If the child is old enough, asking them, "What do you think we can do for sister or girl to make her stop crying?" would help them learn to come up with a solution to cheer up the unfortunate girl. We'd like them to say that she deserves the toy. "She needs a hug" could be a different but appropriate response from the child. "Give her another toy," for example.
The naughty kids learn at this time that every action or behavior has a consequence. They must do positive things if they want a favorable outcome. So, if hugging her sister calms her down, we can thank the naughty kids for their advice.
Older Child's emotions
Some may want me to suggest that we should accuse the naughty kids that they were being mean, but I'm reasoning with the child's rationale. It would help if you were emotionally grown enough to form a conscience with naughty kids. A young youngster may not be ready to consider other people. We need to provide opportunities for naughty kids to practice emotional understanding.
If something similar happened to an older child, we may say, "Perhaps giving the item back to your sister would make her very happy." That's something I'd like to see. I believe you should try it to know whether I am correct." Please note that I did not recommend that you ask the child what they thought. They are unlikely to indicate they don't want to. Thus the option to refuse is not provided.
We are enabling the misbehaving children to ponder without forcing them to surrender. Soft guidance and leadership should focus on child care rather than bullying and punishment.
If the child's behavior is severe, the adult should utilize a distinct set of behavioral statements and inquiries. "You shoved your sister onto the sidewalk." "She got harmed when she fell, and she's weeping." "I believe you injured her by shoving her down." "Can you think of anything you can do to help her feel better?" "I don't want you to stomp on anyone." When they fall, it hurts them."
We've included an adult viewpoint for the youngster to consider this time. If the same child is involved in another incident, we might remind them of what we stated and ask, "When you pushed your sister over, she sobbed because it harmed her." You've now pushed her, and she's crying out in pain." "How do you believe things should go from here?" If the youngster does not want to decide, we can relieve them of some of their responsibilities.
"I believe you should apologize because you have harmed your friend. I already stated that I did not want you to push someone because it is harmful to them. You've successfully pushed your sister. Now you must sit next to me until I tell you that you can go back to playing because I need to see where you are and what you're doing." If this is necessary, the kid should only sit next to the adult for a few minutes, no more than three or four, as their attention span is still concise, and they will quickly forget why they are there.
It will help us stay focused on the best parenting and give naughty kids a positive, consistent role model. Who does not blame or display anger if we recall that youngsters do not instantly have adults' reasoning powers and understanding? I've never known a parent that set out to raise a child to be misbehaving intentionally. If we need our naughty kids to become soft-hearted and good individuals, we must equip them with the necessary tools.